This tool is for anyone whose work depends on trust and sustained relationships. The aim is simple: to help you understand the emotional experience you create for others and to make small improvements that add up over time.
This is a quick self-audit that helps you put words around the experience you tend to create for other people at work. The goal is not to judge yourself or chase a perfect score. The goal is to notice patterns you may have normalised.
Rate each statement from 1 to 5, then add one short example that justifies your rating. Ideally, choose an example from the last two to four weeks so you’re working with fresh evidence rather than a general impression. If you find yourself hesitating or thinking “it depends,” that’s useful data too — it often points to context-specific behaviours that you can work on more precisely.
Once you’ve scored all six statements, look for one or two that are consistently lower than the rest. Those are not accusations: they are your most promising leverage points. You’ll get the most value by choosing one of these to focus on for the next two weeks, then pairing it with a small behaviour experiment from the improvement menu below.
These are the statements for you to rate 1-5:
This tool is designed to help you test your self-perception against how others actually experience you. It works best when you keep it small, safe and specific. You could see it as a form of focused 360-degree feedback.
Choose two to five people who have worked with you recently and who are likely to be honest without being unkind. You can send this by email, Slack or whatever is comfortable in your context, but the key is to frame it as a short, low-effort request.
When you receive responses, look for repeated themes rather than trying to address every comment. One person’s view might reflect a personal dynamic; two or three people pointing to the same pattern is a signal worth taking seriously. Keep in mind that your job isn’t to defend your intent, but to understand your impact and decide what small shift would make future collaboration easier.
Here’s the feedback request you can adapt:
I’m trying to improve how I show up at work, especially the experience I create for others. If you’re open to it, could you answer these four questions?